Let's not waste anytime here and let's talk about it!
So for 25, super long to me NOW, years I held onto my v-card and kept it locked up. I had my first boyfriend in the beginning of this year and at the time things were running as smooth as butter. Originally, I wanted to wait until marriage and I waited for as long as I could until I realized I didn't want to wait anymore. I believe since I'm 25 now, I'm also at my highest sexual peak, like ever! Mind you I've been watching porn forever so I just always found sex extremely fascinating. I saw it as this magical expereince and something that was out of this world. Honey, okay?!
Now listen, losing my virginity to my boyfriend at the time was the most magical moment and let me tell you why! By the way, I'm not giving any details, I mean, we all understand how sex works. But let me tell you why I'm glad he took my v-card! My boyfriend, at the time, respected the fact that I was a virgin during the first six months of us dating. (He was also a family friend so I've known of him for longer than six months.) He waited patiently prior and never pressured me until I was fully ready to have sex with him. When that moment finally came, he treated me differently than any other guy who I've ever dated in my entire life! He treated me like I was cherished and like I was a prize possession. That's what makes the first experience magical. I lost my virginity to someone who deeply cared about me and someone who was patient.
Okay so let's actually talk about sex for a second. So sex is a million times better when it's with someone you have a connection with because it's a lot more fulfilling and passionate. However, it's really important to have that established prior because you want to make sure your person of interest has that mutual connection with you too. Trust me girl, you'll know when you have that and it's the best feeling in the world when it's mutual. My God! And listen, sometimes you'll feel that feeling right off the bat and sometimes it takes a while, chemistry has no estimated time of arrival. Which leads me to this point I know I have a wide range of readers. Some of you are teenagers, some are 20-26 and some of you are older than me. If you are still holding onto your v-card hold onto it for as long as you can please. Everyone doesn't get that magical experience the first time around. I took my time, I waited and I'm happy to this day to have shared my very first time with him.
Now that I've expressed how truly amazing sex is let me briefly explain why I'm choosing to be celibate right now. I'm actually not dying, I mean some days I do want to die but I'm still here. I'm choosing to be celibate because I'm a single girl again for one. Secondly, I also believe when you build the power within your vagina you seriously become a stronger woman! I seriously feel like I'm badass mhmm since making the choice to become celibate.
Since I've been single I've dated other people here and there and let me tell you how much easier it is to filter through these men when you are celibate. There's a lot of men out there that just wanted pussy fresh off the press and that guilt you'll feel after giving in is tough to cope! It's one of the worst feelings, so I hear, you'll feel extremely violated. A real man will appreciate your celibacy and will wait for you, or even with you, because you'll be someone worth waiting for, and you are. And not only because you're worth waiting for but also because you are respected. There's a lot of men out there who actually still respect women, they can be hard to find, but they're out there somewhere. When you find a bunch of them let me know where they be hidin' at! haha.
I hope this post helps some of you women out here. Like I said previously this is something that is personal to me. I wanted to share this post with you all because I know there's women out there who experienced what I have and I want to help someone out there. I know there's women out there that wont' reach out for advice or help - that's why I wrote this post. This is for all my ladies. Love you guys! xx
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